Hard Question Number 1 How Would You Handle This
If it triggers you, be prepared to provide an alternative that wouldn’t.
The scenario is something like this…
The sunroof on the car was left open. I had assumed it was her, she had assumed it was me.
- Me: I think you left the sunroof open
- Her: No, it was you.
I didn’t recall.
- Me: I didn’t, didn’t you drop our kid off?
- Her: Yes, but then when you got out of the Walgreens and I got in the back seat and it was open.
I still didn’t recall, but that seemed reasonable. So take responsibility
- Me: Well, it might have been me, I’m sorry.
- Her: Well if you don’t want to take responsibility, don’t apologize.
Well, I still don’t recall, but I am taking responsibility
- Me: Well I may well have done it, so I’m apologizing. I can’t recall opening it, but I’m still apologizing.
- Her: Well I may well accept it. (Note the tone, and reptition of my statement)
So it seems I’m now stuck and can’t either have declare that I remember doing it, or don’t bother apologizing. Feels lose-lose.
- Me: It may well have been me, I am trying to apologize. It’s clear that my apology isn’t good enough or said in the right way. How would you want me to say it.
- Her: (With anger and frustration) - your way.
So I’m honestly completeley confused by what to do here. I still can’t recall doing it, but based on the situation, I may well have done it. So I should apologize. That’s fine.
Should I take full and absolute responsibility for something I have no recollection of doing? I’m not sure.